How to Serve Your Mistress Properly

If you’re reading this, you’re likely no stranger to the world of submission. You crave the thrill of serving your London mistress… of following her every command. However, deep down, you know that being a good sub isn’t just about obedience….

Here at Bed Domination, we understand that being the perfect submissive requires more than just following orders. So, whether you’re a novice or a seasoned slave, join us as we explore how to properly serve your mistress like the obedient pet you are.

Contents:

• Why Serving a Mistress Well Is Important
• Put Her Desires First—Always
• Be Specific, Be Honest
• Respect Her Time
• Surprise Her with Thoughtful Gestures
• Be Worthy of Her Attention

Why Serving a Mistress Well Is Important

Well, if you’re a good sub, you already know the answer to this…

Pleasing your mistress brings you satisfaction like nothing else, yes… but serving her well also helps to strengthen the bond between the two of you. When you show genuine commitment to her pleasure, you’re feeding into a cycle of trust, loyalty, and reward.

It’s not just about the kinky fun (though that’s a big part of it, let’s be honest here). Serving her well shows that you respect her authority and value her time, effort, and creativity. The better you serve, the more she’ll want to invest in you—and that’s when the real fun happens.

So, if you want those intense, mind-and-body-blowing sessions, remember: your role is to elevate her experience, not just yours. Here’s how:

Put Her Desires First - Always

Yes, you love being tied up, spanked, humiliated, and called all sorts of degrading names. But surprise, surprise… it’s not just about your kinks. Your mistress is the one in control, and serving her well means understanding that her desires take precedence. The best submissives know that their role is to fulfil her fantasies first and foremost.

If she enjoys specific acts - maybe she’s listed cock-and-ball torture under her likes, or enjoys seeing you squirm under her high heels - make sure you embrace those moments with a little enthusiasm. Learn what she loves, and let her know how much you’re dedicated to satisfying her cravings. Trust us - that devotion will not go unnoticed.

Be Specific, Be Honest

Sure, submission is about giving up control, but that doesn’t mean you get to be a silent participant. Your mistress doesn’t have time to guess what you’re into or what your limits are. She’s a master at her craft, yes, but she’s no mind reader.

So, before any session, indulge in a little open communication. Be clear about your desires, limits, and fantasies… establish the safe words… but remember, once those boundaries are set, you leave the rest to her.

Respect Her Time

Being a dominatrix is a full-time profession, and very rarely the side gig you thought it was. Between planning sessions, engaging in marketing, and managing her personal life, your mistress is balancing a lot. So, all she asks is that you respect her time.

Don’t keep her waiting; show up early or on time for your sessions, and keep your communications succinct and respectful. She’s got a lot on her plate, and wasting her time is a surefire way to fall out of her favour. Oh, and be sure to show your appreciation through a generous tip. A well-appreciated mistress is a happy mistress - and that can only mean good things for you, right?

Surprise Her with Thoughtful Gestures

A well-placed gift at the right time can do wonders, even for the most commanding of leather-clad mistresses. She’s only human, after all.

Maybe she’s been talking about a new pair of boots that would look killer while she’s standing over you. Or perhaps there’s a high-end flogger she’s had her eye on. Whether it’s a spa day to pamper herself after working hard to torment you or an item from her personal wishlist, showing that you’ve been paying attention goes a long way.

Be Worthy of Her Attention

Your mistress is perfection incarnate, so why shouldn’t you strive to be the same? Show up to your sessions clean, groomed, and dressed appropriately. A well-kept sub is a reflection of how much they value their mistress’s time and attention. If you’re sloppy, lazy, or don’t take care of yourself, that sends a message that you don’t take your role seriously.

Physical fitness, hygiene, and presentability all matter. It’s a sign of respect—and believe me, your mistress notices every detail. You want her to be proud to claim you as her submissive, and that starts with taking care of yourself. Be the best version of yourself that you can be—it’s the least you can offer someone as special and impressive as her.

Ready to Serve with Devotion?

When you’re ready to serve a mistress who will guide you through the delicious world of BDSM, look no further than Bed Domination.

To book your domination session, simply fill out our online form or give us a ring on 0780 913 8166.

Care to learn more about the world of BDSM? Be sure to check out our blog on the 5 Bed Domination services that are perfect for beginners.