Dominatrix Myths Debunked: What People Get Wrong About the Lifestyle

There is an air of mystery around dominatrixes. Due to the taboo nature of domination and BDSM, there is fertile ground for myths to spread around this practice. Being a dominatrix or seeing a mistress is often attached to stigma, so it is a misunderstood lifestyle.  

We’re here to debunk some common myths about hiring a dominatrix, engaging in BDSM and why people keep on coming back for more. 

Myth 1: A Dominatrix Is Abusive

With accessories like whips, cuffs and paddles and practices like humiliation, spanking, trampling, it’s easy to assume domination involves abuse. But that’s wrong. Abuse would involve one party gaining power over another and taking advantage of that power. But BDSM has foundations in a mutually consensual experience. A dominatrix will take safety precautions, and establish limits and open communication with her client to ensure the session is not abusive, neither physically nor emotionally. 

The activities people consent to as part of BDSM may carry risks, but these are risks that are consented to. Aftercare is a big part of what dommes do. They will always check in with their client after the domination is over to make sure they are okay. 

Myth 2: Submissives Have No Power

While submissives find release in giving up control, it is not true that they have no power. Through using safe words, they have the power to end any session at any point. 

In BDSM, interactions are safe and consensual. Having discussions with your dominatrix before, during and after ensures submissives’ boundaries are respected, ensuring they have control over what happens during the session. A submissive’s relationship with a dominatrix is based on trust. 

Myth 3: BDSM Is A Niche Interest

Visiting a dominatrix is a practice that is often stigmatised. But it is more and more popular as more and more people engage in BDSM. Studies have shown that up to 70% of people had BDSM related fantasies, and 20% had engaged in BDSM. Many people enjoy the wide variety of activities that can come under BDSM; clearly, BDSM is not for a select few in a very niche category.

Myth 4: People Who See Mistresses Are Past Abuse Victims

Many people see mistresses, and they are as diverse as any other group of people. They are not necessarily victims of traumatic events or have psychological issues. Although some victims may find enjoyment in BDSM and find it helps them therapeutically, not all people who visit dominatrixes always have trauma in their pasts. This myth often serves to class people who enjoy domination as not ‘normal’, but in reality they are a wide variety of people. 

Myth 5: BDSM Is Only About Sex

While sex can be a part of a booking with a dominatrix, the experience can go beyond the carnal side. Power play, waxy play, sensory deprivation, rope bondage and roleplaying are also attractive draws for people. These activities may not involve sex. Many experience fulfilment simply from relinquishing control and giving up power, despite being in powerful positions in their personal lives. 

Myth 6: Domination Is About Pain

If you are a masochist and enjoy receiving pain, seeing a dominatrix may be enjoyable for you. But this is not the only reason people seek a dominatrix. People enjoy the heightened sensations of restraints and the physiological exchange of control, engaging in obedience and humiliation. In fact, it is the trust they feel that allows people to open up and be vulnerable with a dominatrix, leading to fulfilment. Not the pain they feel. 

Similarly mistresses are not heartless sadists. They will enjoy giving pain to those who want to receive pain. What mistresses enjoy is giving people what they want. 

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