The Beginner's Guide to Spanking
Posted on: 08 October 2024
It’s playful, it’s intense, and for many kink-lovers, it’s certainly an activity you don’t want to sit out on (with those sore cheeks, sitting might not even be an option)... We’re talking, of course, about spanking!
Not only is this service a perfect balance of pleasure and pain, but it’s also one of the most accessible and exciting forms of BDSM play. Oh, and if there’s anyone well-versed in such an art, it has to be no other than the spanking escorts London has graced us with.
Care to give it a go? Well then, let’s not drag this out like a belt across the bare skin of your arse! Here’s your definitive beginner’s guide to spanking, complete with all the whacks, facts, and tips to make the most of a good time.
Contents:
- What is Spanking?
- Why Do Men Like Spanking?
- What are the Best Spanking Tools?
- How to Spank Like A Pro
- What are Some of the Best Spanking Positions?
What Is Spanking?
Back in the days of old, spanking was a popular form of corporal punishment. These days, however… well, let’s just say it’s more of a treat.
Spanking, quite simply, is the act of striking someone’s buttocks with an open hand or an implement like a paddle or flogger. It’s part of the broader category of impact play and ranges from playful, light taps to heavier, more intense strikes.
Why Do Men Like Spanking?
So then, why is it that so many men (and women!) love to get their cheeks reddened (and yes, we mean both kinds)?
Well, the reasons are as varied as the people who enjoy it. For some, it’s the pure sensation it brings… the mix of pleasure and pain that triggers an endorphin rush. For others, it’s about submission and control… the act of giving up power to a powerful dominatrix, or taking charge in the most literal sense.
Even some of the stats out there show just how enticing and popular spanking is. According to a recent survey, 61% of men are turned on by spanking during sex. Also, take into account that 46.6% of men active in BDSM expressed a preference for a submissive role… and spanking is no doubt an activity that their mistresses indulge in. That’s a lot of people being spanked, and even more arse cheeks being reddened.
So, just to sum it all up, the reasons people love spanking is because:
- It releases endorphins (those happy chemicals that keep us feeling satisfied).
- It’s perfect for subs looking to give up control, and those looking to assert dominance.
- It can test one’s boundaries.
- It’s fun!
What Are The Best Spanking Tools?
So, what are you going to use to spank that lovely arse laid out before you? Or, perhaps you’re bent over for your mistress, eagerly awaiting the touch of her mysterious tool to make contact? Well, luckily for you, there’s a whole world of tools out there, each waiting to leave their mark…
Bare Hands: It’s a classic for a reason (we all remember THAT scene from Secretary, right?)! Using your hand allows for better control and lets you feel the impact as you go. Plus, it’s always right there - no need to go hunting for paddles in the heat of the moment!
Paddles: Paddles are a spanking staple and come in a variety of materials - wood, leather, silicone, you name it. Wood paddles tend to be more thuddy, while leather ones can offer a nice sting. They’re perfect for delivering an even, controlled spank.
Floggers: Floggers have multiple tails (usually made from leather or rubber) and can create one hell of a stinging sensation. They’re perfect for those who like to mix things up during impact play, whilst delivering a world of pain… and pleasure, of course.
Belts: If you’ve ever seen a good old-fashioned punishment scene in a movie, you’ve likely seen the belt in action. This common implement offers both sting and satisfaction, and, well, let’s not deny the pleasure of hearing that snap!
How to Spank Like a Pro
Now, before we get into the nitty-gritty of how to go about it correctly, let’s talk a little about safety.
Before you start swinging paddles or dropping pants, it’s important to lay down some ground rules - safety rules, that is. Consent, communication, and understanding both your and your play partner’s limits are needed to make sure everyone involved has a good time.
So, have a good, long talk about what the two of you want out of the session. Once you’ve established your boundaries, only then can the fun start.
For the Spanker:
Start Slow: Just like you wouldn’t jump into sex without a little foreplay, don’t start spanking your sub without easing into it. Start with soft, slow taps to warm up the skin and gradually increase intensity.
Aim for the Right Spots: As you may well know, not all butt cheeks are the same. Some are larger and more "squishy," meaning they can handle a bit more impact than others. Regardless of size, it's important to stick to the parts of the bottom where there’s plenty of cushion.
Avoid hitting areas like the lower back, spine, and tailbone, as these are more sensitive and prone to injury. The tops of the thighs can also be fun (but more sensitive), so experiment based on your partner’s tolerance.
Give It a Little Rub, Stroke or Tickle: Here’s a little tip most forget about - rubbing the spankee’s cheeks after a few spanks can extend the duration of the sensations. Think of it as aftercare after a few good spanks… before getting right back into it once more!
Maintain a Good Rythm: Don’t be inconsistent with your spanks - keep a steady rhythm. Increase or decrease speed based on how they’re responding—listen for moans (good) or the safeword (not so good).
Always Check In With Your Partner: They might be too shy or too proud to speak up if things are getting too intense, so always make sure you check in on how he or she is doing. The classic "traffic light" system works wonders: Green means go, yellow means slow down, and red means stop right now.
For the Spankee:
Know Your Limits: It’s okay to want to explore new sensations, but be honest with yourself about what you can handle. It’s perfectly normal to start slow and build up as you get more comfortable. If things start to get a little too heated, don’t be afraid to speak up!
Use a Safe Word: A safe word is essential if you’re venturing into more intense play. Something easy to remember but not likely to come up during the heat of the moment—“pineapple” or “red” tend to work well!
What are Some of the Best Spanking Positions?
Once you’ve got your tools and techniques down, it’s time to decide how and where to position yourself (or your partner). Different positions create different sensations and levels of vulnerability, so feel free to try them all out! There’s always fun to be found in a little experimentation, after all…
Over the Knee: This is the classic spanking position and for good reason. It’s intimate, puts the spanker in control, and offers great access to the arse. Plus, it just feels so naughty… and is perfect when combined with a little roleplay.
Bent Over a Chair or Table: This position creates a great angle for deeper spanks, and is also perfect for mixing spanking with other kinds of play, like flogging or paddling. Hell, you could even introduce a little bondage into the session…
On All Fours: This position is both submissive and practical, offering full access to the bottom while keeping the rest of the body supported. It’s also a great option if you want to combine spanking with some cheeky penetration… if you think you can handle some strap-on play, of course.
Standing with Hands Against the Wall: This position creates a different sensation than lying down or being bent over, as the spankee needs to support their own weight while feeling the impact. Also, the best positions are often the ones that make the spankee feel most vulnerable, so why not bring some handcuffs into the mix?
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