A Guide to Pegging: The What, Why, and How

Our mistresses at Bed Domination love role-reversal kinks, even more so than their eager subs. When asked about their favourite activity, the response is almost always the same: pegging.

Now, some of you may have come across the term before, and are intrigued to learn more about it. Most of you are already familiar with it but fail to see why it’s so appealing. The rest of you, however, are already intrigued by the idea of meeting a strap-on escort and would like to know how to prepare for such an encounter.

This blog on the what, why and how of pegging is for all you curious thrillseekers, so go ahead and read on. Who knows? Pegging might just become your new favourite pastime…

What is Pegging?

Ah, the age-old question… well, the 23-year-old question to be exact (the term was only coined in 2001).

So, for those asking: What does pegging mean and what exactly is it? Well, pegging basically is a cis woman penetrating a man with a strap-on dildo.

It’s a nice subversion of typical power dynamics - the woman becomes the penetrator, and the man becomes the penetrated. Is it a little different? Yes. Is it fun and pleasurable? God, yes.

Why Do Men Like Pegging?

If you look at the stats, 16.7% of sexually active Americans have tried pegging, and the sales of strap-on dildos were up by nearly 200% in 2023 - which goes to show that pegging is on the rise.

But why exactly do men like pegging? It’s a good question… and the answer is enough to entice those who haven’t tried it.

Think of it this way - the prostate, located a few inches inside of the rectum, is brimming with nerve endings. With the use of a strap-on dildo, stimulating those nerve endings can be extremely pleasurable - it’s pretty much a G spot for men!

Many men swear by prostate stimulation as leading to the best orgasms of their life, so the real question is: Why shouldn’t you try it?

Is Pegging Gay?

What? Of course not! Having your bum played with doesn’t make you gay. Being gay means being attracted to the same sex… not that you like a bit of anal play!

Plenty of straight cis men enjoy being pegged by their female partners, and most are pretty open about it too! Why? Because it shows that they know what they like and that they’re secure in themselves.

How to Prepare for Pegging Play

Still here? Great - it looks like we’ve piqued your interest.

As a newcomer to the world of strap-ons and anal play, there are some tips to consider before diving in. Let’s start with…

Solo Play

Remember, the anus is a very delicate and sensitive area… more so for those who have never had anything put up there before. So, before getting pegged by someone, we recommend exploring the sensations in your own time.

Before meeting one of our mistresses, you need to understand what it feels like to have something inserted into your anus, and what the differences between mild discomfort and intense pain are. After all, you wouldn’t want to waste your time preparing for such an encounter, only to realise it’s more than you can handle!

Start slowly—begin with a finger, then try adding another, and another. Introduce a small toy, and gradually work your way up, pushing it a little deeper each time. Take your time to experiment and see what feels comfortable. This process is also a great way to communicate your preferences to your pegging partner regarding pace, angles, and dildo shapes that feel most pleasurable for you.

Give It a Good Clean

Just as you’d expect a partner to be clean, you should do the same for them.

Look, there’s no delicate way to talk about ‘anal cleaning’, so let’s just be upfront. If you feel the need to relieve yourself (to poo, shit, whatever), then don’t do anything anal-related. Instead, do your business well before the meeting itself.

You’re not in the clear just yet. There may still be some remnants left inside so be sure to rinse your anus in the shower beforehand. Use soap and water, and gently use a finger to clean just inside the anus to remove any remaining debris.

For the most thorough clean, consider using an anal douche with a flexible tip. It’s a pretty common way to clean out the anus, and there are plenty of guides explaining how to use one.

Foreplay for More Play

Foreplay - it’s an essential part of any sexual experience, as you well know, and pegging isn’t any different.

Start by having her gently massage the prostate, gradually working up to inserting a finger or two—always well-lubed, of course! Using a small butt plug can also be a great way to build up excitement and prepare for more intense play.

There are plenty of other activities the two of you can enjoy to enhance the experience before the main event. Think spanking, roleplay, rimming—whatever gets the mood going and heightens anticipation.

Use Lube… Lots and Lots of Lube

Yes, we get it… some of you out there might enjoy a little pain, but trust us. Going in raw without so much as a drop of lube can be extremely unpleasant for the receiver. After all, the anus doesn’t self-lubricate as a vagina does, and so lube is a vital part of any form of anal play.

Our advice? Use plenty of lube - don’t be shy about it. Coat the toy generously if you have to, especially if you're a beginner. Water-based anal lube is usually the best choice for pegging because it’s easy to clean, won’t stain your sheets, and is safe to use with silicone sex toys. When meeting one of our mistresses, she'll likely bring her own lube, but it doesn’t hurt to be prepared.

While we’re on the topic of pain, we recommend giving numbing lube a miss. While it might seem appealing, it's important to be aware of any pain or discomfort. If you're numbed, you might not realize when something is causing damage to your body.

Shit Happens…

Most of the time, faecal matter is too high up in your colon to make a mess when you’re being pegged. That being said, there is a chance that a small remnant should find its way out, despite your best cleaning methods.

Should a small accident happen, clean it up and move on. Our escorts are experienced and have seen some shit in their time, so there's no need to feel embarrassed. After all, we're all human, and these things happen.

Ready to be Taken Down a Peg?

Wonderful, because our strap-on escorts in London are eager to make your acquaintance. To book your pegging session, simply fill out our online form or give us a ring on 0780 913 8166.

Care to learn more about the world of BDSM? Be sure to check out our blog on the 5 Bed Domination services that are perfect for beginners.